I'm friends with some mildly sociopathic people. It's hard to understand because like... every human being has a choice to care or not care about things, however there are degrees to which we can FEEL empathy. The true sociopath can feel no empathy. But the sociopaths who still are good people see this as a problem, and try to work on ways around their lack of empathy. One of my best friends is mildly sociopathic and she has chosen that when people are upset she avoids them or when people are mad at her she just ignores them.
It's because if she talks to them she knows she'll make them feel worse, because she'll basically just minimize their feelings, throw them out, and then say something really hurtful. It's not that she WANTS to be mean, it's that she feels little to no empathy, she can't sympathize with what they're going through, and all she can think to say is "man you're a f*****g drama queen" or "Good lord you're whiney today".
Because she's realized this is a problem, she will just not respond and not talk to people who are having issues, she knows she'll just poor salt in their wounds. Some sociopaths embrace their lack of empathy, and then hurt people with it on purpose. But this is no different than anyone anywhere, they are mixing their lack of empathy with arrogance. The arrogance says "What I think is right, what I do is what should be done" Whereas a wise person says "I want to be a helpful member of society and this this and this prevent me from doing so"
So not all sociopaths are "evil" They just don't feel empathy like most of us do. When someone is hurting this tugging in my heart feels for them, I feel this gnawing pain for them. The sociopath simply doesn't have that. It's a clinical condition, they cannot help that aspect of their lives. But they CAN recognize it as a problem, and try to do things to not be a drain on everyone else. Or they can turn into serial killers it's their choice.[DOUBLEPOST=1373709295,1373709231][/DOUBLEPOST]
yeah I almost mentioned this. There's EVERYTHING on youtube, it's not like.. youtube has a filter for who can and cannot peruse it, if it's out there in the world it's on youtube.