My mum wants me to stop youtube.

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Michael said:
I think that you should respect your mothers rules and if she insists you must stop then you should do so but I do believe you should be given a reason and not just a flat out no means no type of thing so there's respect both ways. If this was my son or daughter I would at least let them know why I was making such a decision when enforcing it. Just like if they wanted something and I said no, I would give a reason so they're not left wondering why or feeling its unfair etc even if it is unfair and they were to be upset, at least they have the reason and have something to make sense of in their own time.
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Everything is unfair according to teens and kids.
 
Pearl said:
Everything is unfair according to teens and kids.
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Yeah but at least with a reason they wont feel like they're living under a dictatorship, parents are there to nurture their kids and help them in life and I think they should include giving reasons for decisions which might seem unfair. An example:

My son throws his ball at the TV after telling him to be careful with it, I take his ball away without saying anything and put it away where he cannot get it. He would be wondering why I have taken it feeling I am just dictating what happens whenever I want about anything I want, that isnt a good example I think. If I told him I am taking it away because you are putting the TV at risk of being smashed then he would still be upset but he has the reason now and can learn to get over it and also the valuable lesson of not throwing stuff at the TV.

My fictional 14 daughter wants to join YTtalk which I have heard of before, when on there I seen a post with swearing in it and I didnt wish for her to see. When she tells me she is joining I just say "No, youre not joining" thats all I say and block access to the site via the router, nothing else said. She would wonder why and feel its really unfair especially without being given a reason at all and would likely end up resenting me. If I did tell her she might be upset and try to work things out with me and express her reasons for wanting to, I could still say no with my previous reason but at least she would know why and even if she doesnt agree shes heard why. The rule would still be enforced but I think she would learn to accept my reason even if it was unfair.

I just think parents should treat kids a little more like adults when it comes to taking stuff away or saying theyre not doing something. Dishing out rules without explaining why I consider to be bad, just like if I just posted an announcement here right now, "You can no longer post videos at YTtalk at all" people would want to at least know why. If I refused to give a reason I would look like an opaque dictator.
 
I let my 7 and 5 year old daughters on YouTube. However, it's on the condition that the laptop stays in the living room where I have clear view of it just in case anything should pop up! They tend to watch cartoons etc, but at least they know where the boundaries are. They still have their freedom to a certain extent.
I agree with Micheal though - its best to give kids a reason for a sanction, otherwise the child won't know what they have done wrong and hence cannot learn from their mistakes. In the end they'll end up doing it again not knowing its wrong.
 
I think everyone makes fair points on here, I mean I'm 17, so I'm that sort of age where I'm in between both sides of the equation here, but I think that she should be given a reason as to why she is being told not to do it, but then, you should always respect what your parents want whether you think it is right or not, fair enough argue your case if you wish, but don't shout or make it in a disrespectful way, just try to explain your reasoning, cause chances are if you go behind her back or get annoyed at her, it will show you aren't mature enough to have a reasonable conversation about it, nor are you mature enough to understand why she feels that way.
 
KiraCTV14 said:
So basically, I'm 14 years old and I don't have many friends
but my mum wants me to stop making youtube videos and says she'll do whatever it takes to make sure I don't upload videos :S

What should I do? Youtube's my livelyhood
Should I just go?
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I kinda don't want to be mean.... but yeah, try again when you're old enough to do what you want without your mom telling you what to do.

It could either that you focus so much time on YT you're ignoring your other responsibilities and that worries her.
It could be that she's worried about everyone seeing her son on the big bad internet.
It could be that she just wants her son to do something else besides being on the computer all day and actually go out and be social.
Or maybe she's just a lame old fashioned mom that doesn't quite get 'that there internet business'.

Either way, try again whenever you don't need mom's permission anymore.
 
I think it's a shame she won't give you a reason, but I suppose there isn't much you can do about it sadly. Hopefully you'll get it all sorted out somehow, and one day, be it a few years from now, you'll be having fun making all the videos you want :)
 
DeantheDinosauce said:
Sounds like one of those s**t arguments I see from Creationists.

As I keep reading your responses they keep annoying me. My mother was not a very good one, so saying "Mum is always right" is the wrong response in my opinion.
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Take your religion war somewhere else.
 
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